Tuesday, 27 November 2012

Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, New Year's Hell *

* With a little effort you can make that work, it's all in the timing.

It’s been a long time since I blogged, or even read a blog, and that’s because I’ve been out and about having a lovely time. I’ve made new friends in the social group I attend and so most weekends I am now out socializing, drinking and dancing with them, and having a blast.

I also find time to row twice a week. Yes, I am definitely a rowing tragic now. I go to yoga as often as I can, although I have given Bikram the heave-ho and go to a Vinyasa powerflow class. (I still can’t do handstands.)  And I also get to tango classes on a haphazard basis. Oh and I picked up a casual waitressing job once a week too. Even that can be fun and social. 

I have cleansed my life of on-line dating, and am happier for it. I go on dates with men I meet socially but there is still no one significant in my life. (And that still sucks.) But on the whole I am much, much happier than the same time last year. . .

 . . . until the prospect of Christmas rears its ugly head. And New Year’s Eve. There are still a few anniversaries and days that have the power to make me pensive. I am relieved to say I hardly ever cry in public anymore! Three years on, now that's progress! (Yes, I am gently mocking myself but it's still true.) However the holidays still sometimes suck (gotta love alliteration) and I never did figure out where I could run away to so as to avoid Christmas entirely. 

Today I was unexpectedly reminded of that. A friend of a friend has emailed us all and encouraged us to attend a function on New Year’s Eve. You know, it’ll be about champagne and canapes. My friends are all keen to go, I am less so.

Apart from the logistics of getting home after drinking on New Year’s Eve I don’t enjoy the crowds or the pressure to have a really-good-time-because-it’s-New-Year’s-Eve. Yet the alternative is to stay home. Hardly fun either.

When the hubby was around we’d go to another couple’s place and have a low key celebration locally. That was enough for me. I didn’t want to throw my own party, or make a big deal out of New Year’s but hanging out with friends for a casual drink was fine.

Now those friends have packed up and moved back interstate, other friends we often saw go away for Christmas until New Year’s and so I’m left torn between going out with other single friends or staying home.

And neither appeals. 

Any advice?

Stella-the-wet-blanket x


  1. Hi. Al, to whom I've just read your blog says, 'Well. Don't succumb to the pressure. It's an excuse to party if you feel like partying. If you don't, don't.'

    Easy to say, I suppose.

    So glad you've been having fun, and that you're blogging again. I value my on-line friends.


    Going to VATE, btw? I am.

    1. oops, I always forget to just hit "Reply" instead I start another comment. Good advice. . . I think I spend most Fridays partying so maybe I don't need to do it on NYE as well. . . .

      See actual reply down below. . . .
      Stella xx

  2. Fraudy! And Al!
    Good to hear from you :-)

    I would love to go to VATE but they don't send CRTs there and until VIT tells me I HAVE to increase my PD I'm not prepared to pay for it myself. . . just saying.
    However, I am applying for a real job next year, I will blog about that soon, so perhaps I can go next year!

  3. There should be a place for people to hide until holidays are over. A nice cave somewhere. With hot tubs...