Tired of internet dating, I got out. I was so disappointed in it that I resolved not to go back for at least a month.
That lasted for about 4 days - I have no staying power whatsoever. I’m clinging to the slim hope that I might meet someone nice. I don’t run into a lot of new men in my other activities. It’s the same old people at school, and lunch/dinner/drinks with friends never nets any new men. The problem might be where I live- up here in the hills, miles from town, it’s more likely to be families than single people, plus the occasional hippy.
Lots of us teachers live up here too. But professionals who work in town generally don’t want to spend an hour on the train getting there. They tend to live closer to town. I always see the same men at the gym, and Bikram tends not to attract men; yoga’s not one of those activities men flock to do.
As usual the internet dating thing is never simple. On an excursion the other day a fellow teacher tells me that her partner’s friends also do internet dating- they are much younger than me. The bad news is they often reject women because they look too attractive in their photos, “Not her, mate, too good looking.”
Really? So should I find my worst photo and put it up? How are you meant to know what to do?
Other advice I’ve been given which would explain why I am single includes:
- I’m too fussy.
- I intimidate men. (Actually, a guy I was seeing told me this.)
- I’m superficial and need to have at least 3 dates before I decide whether or not I’m attracted to someone.
- The dog should be an outside dog- that’s old advice actually but the theory was that a man would be put of by the dogs.
- I’m too independent.
Reasons why I think I’m single:
- Men are stupid. (I’m an excellent catch and anyone would be pleased to have me.)
- I’m full of myself.
- I’m too sarcastic.
Anyway, I figure I may as well be back on there. I re-wrote my profile description too. There’s a teeny chance that it might sound a little sarcastic, but just a slim one.